Friday, January 13, 2006

I don't know what to think anymore...

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Eh, my day wasn't that great... I'm not gonna bitch about it, that won't solve anything, I guess I'm just putting it out there.

I didn't get to say everything last night, Nick... but I said something like, I wish I could give you a reason... The rest is, "to love me". I'm not a very good person, despite what you think. I'm very depressed, boring, too sensitive, passive, annoying, etc... I guess that also means I'm selfless, nice, and empathetic, stuff like that, but it's still not good enough. I'm sorry, I wish I was better for you.

I wonder what you were gonna say, when you started "for the record"... maybe you stopped to spare my feelings... I dunno, it just makes me think.

I feel like puttin' this up here, 'cuz all you guys I know need it.
Just random stuff I've thought about lately that women do and what it means compared to what you guys think it means. Some of them other people said, like on TV, or my friends, but here ya go....

- Tips for da Dudes, and I guess there are things that apply to da Ladies too -

~Things are never as you expect, and they usually don't turn out as you'd expect.

~A beautiful woman wants to be told she's smart, a smart woman wants to be told that she's beautiful, and a woman who's beautiful and smart wants to be told the truth.

~If you really love her, tell her so.

~Tell her that you love her at any and all times. Don't say "love ya" or "you know I love you" all the time, make sure you're serious, maybe look into her eyes and say "I love you...", because to a woman, the other two don't mean as much as that one.

~Time does not heal wounds, not even a bit; action does. If you get in an argument, time will not make things better.

~If you’re not sure if you love her or not, you don’t love her.

~Do anything to make her laugh, it'll make her grow closer to you.

~Be honest, be honest, be honest, be honest.

~Don't be absorbed in yourself

~When she is upset you should hold her tight, even if she struggles, and tell her how much she means to you.

~Don't avoid confrontation

~Relationships are all about sacrifices, be prepared to make them. You must be willing to be there whenever your other half is in need of help or something along those lines.

~Your partner cannot read your mind and will never know your feelings, needs, and desires if you do not express them. So remember to always give signals that you are enjoying something or that something is not working for you. Be open to your partner about your needs and thoughts and understand your partners' needs and thoughts.

~If she runs, she wants to be chased.

~If you're around other girls, especially girl friends, and she's with you, don't loosen your grip on her, pull her close to you to show her that you chose her over all of them and you're not going to change your mind anytime soon.

~Hold her hand at any moment even if it's just for a second, it shows how much you care.

~Make sure you touch her a lot, not obsessively, I'm sure you know what I'm saying... doesn't even have to be a sexual way, just in an intimate way.

~Women assume everything, which is why we tend to overreact. For example, "I'm hungry" could potentially turn into "You don't satisfy me, I want another girl" after a few nanoseconds in a lady's brain. Try to be sensitive about it, that doesn't mean you have to think about everything you say, just try to be sensitive and understand.

~If she gets angry at you, kiss her, that'll make her very confused, but atleast she won't be angry anymore

~Women tend to be very loyal if they like you, so trust her and you won't give her a reason to leave.

~Don't be complacent, it things are getting dull, try to spice it up, don't get bored and leave; you could even talk about it.

~We all loooooooooooooove flowers, they smell so good.

~COMMUNICATION!! Perhaps one of the most important things on the list. Great relationships bloom are able to prosper only because both partners are willing to talk through all problems that arise and converse openly on any topic of importance to the relationship, or even topics that don't have to deal with the relationship. This also deals with the fact that if you don't have good communication, there won't be trust because of the way the female mind works especially (remember the inferring/assuming things I talked about earlier).

~Be her best friend, that way she'll always come running back to you if she has a problem.

~The idea that something is ok for you to do, but not for your partner to do, is outrageous; this mostly deals with jealousy/trust issues, like a girl gets angry with a guy going to hang out with his female friends but goes out with her male friends all the time. If you do it, then so can they. If they do it, then so can you, so think about if you would want them to do it or not. The same concept goes with rules, like, if you don't want your partner getting drunk or doing drugs, you can't do them either.

~Tickle her, play games with her, rub her tummy, do silly things, that makes it seem like you're not in it just for the seriousness.

~Hugs!!! ^ ^ Sexual and nonsexual hugs o__O

~The simple things often mean the most, I've said this a few times, but I think I should clarify. Showing your love for your partner with emotion and thoughtfulness far outweigh any purchased gift. People love to be showered with gifts, but that runs dry if there is no warmth in your touch or love in your eyes.

~Be willing to take a risk, giving someone your heart could mean that they may abuse it.

~Sometimes breaks are needed, this is obvious. Some days you may want to take some time for yourself and do what you want to do. However, when you return to your partner you should give them even more affection than usual. In a way, this shows your gratitude for your partner understanding your need to be your own person.

~Sing to her and hold her, it will show how much you mean to her.

~Always remember that physical and mental beauty is subjective and your personal opinion of what is beautiful is just that, your opinion. And it is usually a lack of one, the other, or both that causes relationships to fail.

~Kissing <>(Does not equal) Sex

~Routines can be deadly for relationships. Everything is expected to happen, there's no more excitement. Make sure you keep things spontanious so the spark never dies.

~Say her name, she likes how it sounds.

~Relationship advice sucks... except for this stuff >__> 'cuz I'm cool.

~Rules about dating sucks, don't buy any of da books or nofin', iz not real! I'm not giving you rules here, these are just tips.

~Let her fall asleep in your arms, it lets her feel safe.

~Write her notes and do spontanious things to show how much she means to you.

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That's all I got... now, if ya do some of that stuff, I guarantee you'll like the response you get.



Take care everyone
I love you so much Nick! *kiss*

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... how should I know?



“Never pretend to love which you do not actually feel, for love is not ours to command.” - - Alan Watts

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