Monday, September 25, 2006

Recently some of my friends have been posting their ideal qualities in a partner and it reminded me of Barcelona. Me, Caeli, Leslie, and Ashley did the same thing in Barcelona and I remember writing it all down in my journal. Caeli had talked about how her mother had done the same thing when she was younger and a week later she met him. Granted, that week has come and gone for us but what girl hasn't sat down with a sheet of paper and thought about Prince Charming? Anyway, reading my friends list reminded me of the ones I had so diligently recorded and I thought it might be interesting to compare my list now with my list then. The Barcelona List - dark hair, "manicured bed-head" - dark eyes - looks good in hats - makes me laugh - witty and intelligent - likes to tease - is honest with me (...when it really counts) - likes animals - likes to explore - enjoys watching/playing sports - appreciates music, movies, literature, and art - is okay with going dutch and letting me pick up the bill - tolerant and open-minded to new/different ideas - has an inner child - isn't big on PDA and petnames - not overly romantic - goofly, quirky streak - independent Revised Edition A lot of it actually hasn't changed, except for a few subtle ones and some additions. I'm still more attracted to dark haired and dark eyed men, and scruffiness in general. I like the five o'clock shadow, and I like the way it feels. I like a guy who's as comfortable in slacks and a jacket as he is in basketball shorts and a baseball hat. I like a guy who likes to party some nights and then stay home on others and can have the same amount of fun doing either. I like a guy who likes himself, and who takes pride in who he is and what he does without crossing that line. I like a guy who's interested in the liberal arts as much as he's interested in sports and in politics and wants to discuss all of it with me at Starbucks. I want a guy who can go a few days without seeing me, but will call just to hear my voice. I want a guy who likes it when I hang out with him and his friends, and vice-versa, but also understands the importance of a girls night/boys night out. I want a guy who cares about school - and his eventual career - as much as I do, but who also understand that balance is necessary for harmony and that family will always come first. I want a guy who's not afraid to try new things, and is open minded to new ideas without compromising himself or his beliefs. I want a guy who can communicate what's going on and isn't be afraid to open up, even if it seems a little scary or he's not sure which road he's on exactly. I like a guy who can adapt, who's relaxed but responsible, and completely loyal. I like a guy who will challenge and tease me physically and intellectually, one who wants to show me off. I like a guy who's a little protective and a little possessive, who's just as passionate out of bed as he is in bed. I like a guy who's not afraid to be a little weird, and loves the fact that I am. I like a guy who finds joy and comfort in everday life, and especially in nature. I want him to want me as much as I want him, and who will want me even after death. But more than anything I want him to be real, even if he isn't everything I've ever dreamed of, because what good is a wish when it doesn't come true?

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