Wednesday, October 27, 2004

Okay time for me to go on a little rant about to things money and presents. Specificaly between friends.

Sence I said it first lets start with money. I've been thinking about this because of how I've seen a few people acting lately. Money should never get in the way of friendship. Thats just so stupid. Lets start with loaning money. If one of my friends needs money to say by lunch or pay back a fine and I have some I'll give it to them. Me being me I usualy forget about it five minutes later and never ask for it back (witch could explain why I'm always in need of cash). I don't think its wrong to ask for money back from your friends a loans a loan. But you can take it to far. Take for instance two friends of mine. Honestly they only hang out with each other because they have to to be around everyone else but I don't think it matters and My first friend, friend A acts like this with everybody. Friend A has loaned Friend B money a few times. When she does she refuses to leave the issue alone until shes paid back. Except Friend B doesn't have much money. Friend A as well as the rest of us already knew this. If someone just doesn't have money and you know that you should be sentive enough to relize that they can't pay you back imeadiatly and give a break ro if you have a problem with that not loan it in the first place. So, she hounds her about the money she lowned her last week then adds another 10 dollers on to it and we all ask were that caome from. Apreartenly 6 months ago when we all whent to dinner together she bought her something. Friend B says she already payed her back and they go on and on. So eventualy I just give Friend A the money for friend B saying she can pay me back but she won't cause like I say I'll never remember to ask. Honestly though if you have a problem loaning someone money don't do it in the first place. And after a few months just let it go. It shouldn't be something convient to pull up whenever you have an arguement to show your both right and generous for lettting soemone use all of your few dollers. I remember once she just kept on going after me beacause I owed her a doller a doller. I don't think you should owe your friends anything and that if you think about it it all balences out in the end with continusly louning each other stuff. I mean she probably owes me alot if I ever talied everything up. Just my pointless little thing on ideocies of money. I had more to say on the subject but I've kinda forgoten.

On to gifts. First of I think gifts should never be mandatorie or demanded. I mean thats the whole point of them being gifts. I'm talking about this cause alot of my friends and me have birthdays around this time of year so I've been thinking about it. Friend A from above has been getting on my back cause I never got her a present for her birthday somthing like 8 months ago. First of I'm not obligated to get her something secound of I did just it whent missing. I'm sorry about it but on the subject of money I don't have an endless suplie of it or time. Can we please move on now. Besides she didn't get me anything for my birthday do why am I the only one with an obligation. Friend B also from above just had her birthday and was demanding good presents but that was okay cause she was joking we knew she was joking. You shouldn't stop being someone friend cause they didn't get you anything. Also you should get someone something purposfully you know will get them in trouble because thats not right either. I never liked gifts that much because they have alot of potential for being bad. If people exchange gifts one will invaribly feel shortchanged and get mad at the other person and personeley I like gifts that are personel rather then ones that are expensive. One of my favorite girts is a cd case because my friends specificaly got it because she knew it was my favorite colors. Or another friend who got me an old tattered book but had spent a long time looking for it cause she knew I'd like the story. Thats what gifts are about.

I don't know what I'm rambleing about (I got away from what I was origenaly going to say a long time ago) or the point of this but basicaly its stupid to let material things get in the way of friendship.
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