Thursday, February 28, 2008

And I need a man why?
‘All legitimate religious study must lead to unlearning the differences, the illusory differences, between boys and girls, animals and stones, day and night, heat and cold’ From Zooey by Salinger. This is the precise reason that Salinger has and always will be my literary idol. Although he is talking about religion in this particular situation it really applies to society as a whole. There is always that obvious distinction that one is more valued then the other and that capabilities and personality are differentiated according to sex. Yes it is anatomically true that there are physical differences between man and women but these are blown entirely out of proportion by society. Darwin wrote in the ‘Decent of Man’ that while man may have a bigger brain then women the actual portion of both sides of the brain used is much smaller therefore women make up in brainpower what they lack in strength.
Ok so we all know that I’ve studied Darwin for years and have an intense belief in evolution, but I also can’t stand the stereotypical nature of society, yes we are back to the box analogy again but come on its been a while since I’ve screamed COME ON BREAK FREE OF THE BOX! LIVE OUTSIDE SOCIETIES EXPECTATIONS! Wow that felt good lol. As you’ve probably guessed yes this another bitch resulting from over exposure to society and wait a new element reading too much shoujo *gasp* first yaoi now shoujo I’m actually reading non-cynical texts full of cute love stories *double gasp*

So I’ve been noticing a lot of similarities in all these titles there is an attractive boy who falls for the common girl, and in every case the common girl is chastised by other girls for being with the attractive guy. Its like they seem to have no respect for what the other people want. I think I would have just ignored this as stupid if I didn’t know that this is a scenario developed from reality. Why is that girl's have this urge to be so possessive of another person? Is this something that’s built into the brain of the majority of girls or is it just something that has developed from constant conditioning from birth being read cute fairy tales that state that because its some what rare a males purity should be protected at all times. Personally I’ve never been the jealous type even when I dated I was happy to let my partner do what they wanted with the opposite sex because I had no right in telling them what to do, just like they had no right controlling my actions.

Which brings me to the next point this constant distinction of the weak female being saved by her knight in shinning armor. Its like from the moment we’re born these fairy tales are being exposed to us, now you act all feminine and grow up to be a beautiful women that will make a man happy. WHAT ABOUT MY HAPPINESS? I don’t want to be dependant on another person my entire life, I might struggle through life but just because I’m a women doesn’t mean I can’t kick ass myself and survive. But even in today’s society that struggle for independency is even harder for women then men. When it comes to a job that needs strength and determination 80 % the time a man will be chosen over a women even if the women is actually the more capable person. Its infuriating society still only views women as the child bearer. And women with independent thought are looked down on by those around her, because they think she should only live for a man. I refuse to let my value in society be determined by whether I chose to have a person by my side or not, I live my life for myself entirely not for anyone else, and if someone wants be to suddenly do everything for their sake they can get screwed.

Recently I was reading an article in a magazine; yes I should be banned from reading women’s magazines when I’m severely bored because I just end up bitching here for a whole page. Anyway it was an article on understanding the male mind, I though it would be good for a laugh … well I guess it did make me kind of laugh so. I got half way through the article and realized everything they were describing as standard male thoughts was exactly the way I think … I have the mind of a standard male. Apparently that’s what make me so great according to my male friends it means I’m not complicated like the standard female. But it got me thinking if I’m not like all the other conditioned females in this god-forsaken world why am I still treated like them buy all the conditioned males? Sure there are a few males that treat me independently and as an individual but there are very few. I still have guys wanting to protect me even though I’m perfectly capable of protecting myself, and when I confront them with this they don’t deny that fact but they say they just act out of habit because its the right thing to do.
So basically does that mean if we were to take all these conditioned standards away of what makes a man a man and a women a women there wouldn’t be such sexist stereotypes? So if a child is raised to view both and man as equal, only being taught the standard anatomical differences, and not exposed to romantic fairy tales or the acts of chivalry they could possibly grow into an adult that views both man and women as equal?


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