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myOtaku.com: Irish de Fenal


Wednesday, October 7, 2009

:sigh:
The problem with preconceived notions is that when we confront reality our notions are found very ineffectual.

Marriage is not another form of friendship, rather, it is another form of life. Those who enter into marriage cannot expect to remain the same as they were before. For marriage takes two concrete individuals and forces them to work in tandem, together. It shifts the identity focus from the self to the other. It is a Very Painful Process. But it is also a Beautiful and Joyous process; very much so, if one does not allow preconceived notions to interfere. I'm not talking about the basic concept being different, I'm talking about the notions of expectation. E.g.: "we were friends when we began, now we can live together." Marriage is more than simply living together. Marriage is more than mere friendship (which is a great and wonderful thing and challenge in and of itself). Marriage is a death to the individual and a rebirth as a couple. No longer will life go back to the way it was, because now someone has entered the horizon and changed the ground of being.

There's a reason why marriage is considered a sacrament in the Catholic Church. And God is most definitely needed in it to get us through it, because left to our own disordered devices based on our silly preconceived notions, we human beings are just going to bungle things up.

'Til next time...

I love you Batman; and I am blessed to wake up each day to find you with me. @}~~',~~
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