Wednesday, November 26, 2003

5:59 PM.Wednesday.Nov 26.

I'm feeling rather out of place. For some reason I get the feeling that Mitch is mad at me, but I'm not sure why. I guess I should ask him...

The first day of vacation was pretty good, I guess. I went Thanksgiving shopping with my daddy, which was interesting. There are some strange people in Wal*Mart, lol! It actually inspired me to write a little "How To." I'm not finished with it yet, but once I do, I shall post it.

On to other things...

Assumptions. They're everywhere. We assume something everyday. We assume this person's weird because of the way they dress, we assume that things are a certain way, we asssume that a person doesn't have it as bad as we do.

But the real truth is...we don't know at all.

Any and all of these assumptions are founded on no or very little knowledge. We generalize, put into boxes, whatever we can to make it seem like we have a good grasp of the world, even if it's based on lies, gossip, and what we think to be true. No one can say truthfully that they've never assumed something, that they've never thought ill of someone just because of how they look or one little something they said.

As we make these assumptions, we close ourselves off more and more to people and things, never really knowing, never really experiencing these things which we label as bad. Assumptions line us in, shut our minds off, put a blindfold on what we might do and see.

So why do we make assumptions? Why do we foolishly inhibit our own understanding of the world? In making assumptions, we think that somehow we are better able to classify everything, we know something others don't. But in fact it is the other way around. We make the assumption. Then we catagorize and base more assumptions on top of that assumption. You completly disreagard facts because of that assumption. Truths are erased and opinion is written in. In the end, you are left with one big mess of lies, and know less about the world than you did when you started.

And assumptions can hurt deeply as well.

A little while ago, I had a friend over. For various reasons, my mother and I got into an argument while my friend was there. Once I got back to my room, instead of the support I had expected, I got a 'why do you treat your mom like that? I wish I had a mom like yours. You really don't know what you have.'

Needless to say, I was shocked. She hadn't been here last year when it was all going to hell. She hadn't had to endure my mother and father's drunken rages. The fact was, she didn't know a damn thing about my parents, or what I had to go through. Yet here she was...making arguments for them, telling me I was wrong to be less than respectful to them. After living with them, and having had to deal with their actions, it is no wonder that I am less than the perfectly obideint daughter, full of respect and love.

In the end, we both got in a fight. We both got hurt by eachother's words.

So, I shouldn't have assumed that she would be there for me, or agree with me. And she shouldn't have assumed that her life was harder than mine. The pain our assumptions caused I think will linger for awhile.

Knowing this, having seen all the assumptions people make, and how much they can hurt...I'll try my hardest not to make them. I believe you have to look deeper, to truly see a person, to really question the action and question yourself, before you can say or think things of a person or thing.

The point I'm trying to make?

Assumptions can be fatal. Take the time to look a little closer, and to open your mind.

-Karma



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