Wednesday, January 25, 2006

   Just a warning
For the females, article is self-explanatory. For the males among
you, please pass on to wives, daughters, friends, etc.

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Something that happened in Katipunan, QC

Dear friends,

Many of you may not have heard of the incident that happened to a
friend of my son last week at about 6:30 pm right in-front of the
thickly-populated area of BPI-Katipunan, near shoppersville. She
parked her car right in front of BPI to make a withdrawal and to do
some grocery.

As she was getting into her car after doing her chores, a man
suddenly appeared beside her and tried to bully her into moving to
the passenger seat. when she pressed her car horn to call attention,
he pushed her in the car ad pinned her down with his elbow on her
neck. It was a good thing that she had the presence of mind to
continue to struggle and press on her car horn to catch attention
(even if she had to use her foot to do this).

Her assailant even tried to make people believe that it was a
domestic matter by telling the crowd not to get involved as it was
a "private matter".

But with the onlookers multiplying by the second, her assailant
finally gave up and ran. that was when she stood up and shouted for
help. Thank God the guy got caught and is now under police custody.
Last Saturday, during the inquest, she told me that what gave her the
guts to fight her assailant was the article "THROUGH A RAPIST'S EYES"
forwarded to our e-groups about a week prior to her attack. I am re-
forwarding the article you can find it at the bottom of this (e-mail)
for everyone's benefit. Please tell your friends, family, and loved-
ones about this. It works.

May I just add that to a certain extent, we have to get ourselves
involved if we see violence being committed on anyone like calling on
a security guard or a police officer even if it appears to be a
domestic matter.

It seems that a lot of attackers use that tactic to get away with
violence. Not many people know how to take care of themselves
whenfaced with such a situation. Everyone, please be very, very
careful.

THOUGHT THIS WAS GOOD INFO TO PASS ALONG...
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FYI - Through a rapist's eyes!

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on
what they look for in a potential victim and here are some
interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.
They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid
or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely
to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not
common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for
women whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry
scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through
their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are
off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from/attacked at is
grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman
and quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to
worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged
because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going
after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or
other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their
hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to
the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince
these guys you're not worth it.

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POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or
with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask
them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: I
can't believe it is so cold out here, we're in for a bad winter. Now
that you've seen their faces and could identify them in a line-up,
you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of
you andyell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to
said
they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not
be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of
it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER
SPRAY and
holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you
can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist
from behind, pinch
the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in
the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught
told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date
rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out
muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try inching yourself in those
places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a
particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it
is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and
make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of
trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers
and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing
down on them
as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much
pressure,and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware
of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see
any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may
feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy
really was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ....

I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be
some, where you will go "hmm I must remember that"

After reading, forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to
be careful in this crazy world we live in.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your
body. If you are close enough to use it, do!

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans: if a robber asks
for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away
from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet
and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE
MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back
tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like
crazy. The driver won't see you but everybody else will. This has
saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,
eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making
a list,etc.DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this
is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,
put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET
INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or
parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger
side floor, and in the back seat.

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the
passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling
them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their
cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and
the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest
your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a
guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE
THAN SORRY. (And better
paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are
horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control,
ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in
100 times; and even
then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may
get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-
looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of
unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often
asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when
he abducted his next victim.

I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a
life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going
to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers,
wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them,
as well. Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded
that the world we live in as a lot of crazies in it and it's better
safe than sorry
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